When Thing 3 was born, I wasn't sure if I could talk my husband into having any more children. Our hands were full with 3! But Thing 3 was such a sweet little baby and easy going that we decided we would try one more time to get a girl.
However, this time we were going to do all those silly wives tales you hear and read about that seem ridiculous; but we thought as long as we were going to try one more time, it wouldn't hurt to try all these things. We read things like change your diet and time to conceive. We knew we were only touching the tip of the ice berg with research on exactly what we would need to do, and we were willing to learn and put in the research time - except Thing 4 wasn't really interested in waiting. I was pregnant before we even had a chance to try.
It was so easy to conceive him I thought for sure this was meant to be and this would be our long awaited daughter. So sure in fact that I decided to have the sex be a surprise. My husband did not want to wait that long to know, he is a super planner, so he found out at the 20 week anatomy scan, and I was in my bliss of being so sure it was a girl. Several times my husband slipped up and revealed to me that I was having a boy, and each time I didn't even come close to catching on. My feelings that he was a girl were so strong they literally blinded me.
Thing 4 was born, and I was shocked. But wait, this was my girl! I immediately wanted to try for another girl. My husband wasn't so enthusiastic. Then the stress of having a tiny newborn baby, and a special needs child hit me full force and I decided I was done having kids. I accepted I would never have a daughter, and that was it. However, God had different plans because every single time I thought this and made up my mind, I got hit with a brick! I was not done having kids, there is one more.
So I explained my very mixed feelings and emotions to my husband, who was just as frazzled and stressed and tired as me. He finally relented to trying one more time, but only if we did a procedure called PGD. Basically it's gender selection. you are only impregnated with the girl embryos. After much praying, and research we felt good about our decision to go this route and started the testing necessary for the procedure.
It is an extremely expensive measure to take, but we felt the investment in our family was well worth the expense. We had all the testing complete and sat down to sign the contract with the financial department. Only then did we find out that we were not guaranteed even a try at a pregnancy. Up to this point we were under the impression our money guaranteed we got at least one try, then if I miscarry, that was where the risk was. We were willing to take that risk. However, we found out that if after going through everything to extract eggs, they don't end up with any viable females to implant, we were out our money. Given the fact that we have 4 boys, we felt the risk of not getting females to implant was pretty high. At that point we walked away.
Again I struggled because I really want to be done with the pregnancy stage, and newborn stage, and even toddler stage. I want to be able to go camping and not worry about what to do with a baby who eats rocks all day. Again that brick just beat me up!
We decided we really do need to have one more. This time, I did all the research on what you can do to sway the gender of the baby. But before we decided to go this route, we both had to decide if we were ok if we ended up with 5 boys. Shortly after saying I was ok with 5 boys, I had a friend ask me to babysit her 4 year old son. He was outside playing with my 4 boys on the swing set and trampoline and all of the boys were laughing, screaming jumping climbing and just being boys. That confirmed to me that I am at peace and will be happy with 5 boys. That was when I truly felt that I wasn't just saying I was ok if this sway attempt got me a boy instead of a girl.
So I did all the research, and there really are some very silly things out there to get a girl. I have no idea why anybody would think that putting a wooden spoon under your pillow would affect what sex is conceived!
But there are some actual studies conducted and proven more scientifically to be girl or boy friendly. These things are still not 100 percent guaranteed, but made enough sense I decided it was worth it to try. It was suggested to track changes to your body from the strategies suggested before attempting to conceive.
So following, that advice I tracked everything for the 3 months. Wouldn't you know, I got pregnant the first real shot. Way to go my dear husband!So the question: do I now have a basketball team?